#mcm and #wcw Can your relationship survive?

#mcm and #wcw are getting to be a pretty big deal. Why? I suppose I could understand if a person were single and wanted to post a picture of a celebrity. Or, a single person might actually want to get the attention of his or her TRUE crush and doesn’t know another way. That’s fine. That’s cool. But, WHY would a married or committed person feel the need to do it?

Ok. I get it. We all have our favorite actors and actresses. But, when does being a “fan” turn into “fanatic” (yes, I know that’s what “fan stands for, but, I feel that the connotation is different) or “fantasy”? When does it turn into disrespect? That’s the issue I have with it. If my husband posted a picture of a celebrity as his “woman crush”, I would be ticked. I’m pretty sure a lot of women would be. It has nothing to do with whether or not the person is attainable. It’s because, may women would say,  “I know what HE’S thinking about her when he posts that picture!” Really? Exactly what are YOU thinking when you do it?

I feel like it would be very disrespectful to my husband if I were to post a picture of another man as my “man crush”.  Am I going to cross paths with a celebrity one day who will confess his undying love? Heck no. That’s not the issue. The issue is, posting that picture would tell others I am not 100% satisfied in my relationship.  I think it would make couples feel like they are not each other’s ideal mate and that they have yet another thing to live up to, that they can’t, because, let’s face it, so few of us get to post airbrushed, touched up, professional pictures for everyone to drool over. THAT is wherein lies the biggest problem.

These “crushes” are usually fake. Not that they aren’t real people. They certainly are real people. However, the photos that make their way to us are NOT what the people actually look like. They are what professionals WANT you to see, want you to want, want you to want to be., and, dare I say, want you to want your partner to be. Sorry. Give me real any day.

Here’s another item to think about. It may start innocently enough. But, what if, just, what IF, some guy sees that “crush” post and doesn’t think a gal is happy? What if he decides to “be her friend” because she’s obviously looking for more? What if she’s flattered and starts thinking she is looking for more because he thinks she is because she posted a picture of a celebrity as her “crush”. What if the friend slightly resembles the celebrity? Yeah. Sure. It’s a lot of speculation. But, many a thing starts out innocently enough. So, my question is this, #mcm and #wcw, can your relationship survive it?